When it comes to our physique, it is often easier to think of what we don’t like than what we do like. Being a Wellness Concierge among other things, part of my job description is getting people what they want–if they want a tight body, I show them how to get it in a healthy, effective way. However, the road from Point A to Point B may require more than a few weeks depending on how difficult the terrain. Goals may be inspiring, but what about the interim? Looking at my own life, two words have weathered all seasons: goals and gratitude. One is hard; one is soft. One is yin; one is yang. One brings outer transformation; the other brings inner transformation.
Many may know the tale of a magical goldfish rescued by a poor fisherman. Being spared the ensuing fate of a fisherman’s net, the magical fish grants the man who saved him three wishes as thanks for his act of mercy. Even with every wish and desire made available to him, the man is still unhappy and, in the end, destroyed by his insatiable lust for more.
No acquisition or accomplishment can endure the test of time. Ultimately, the only thing that brings lasting satisfaction is a heart choice. Gratitude is that heart choice–it is a decision to perceive and experience all things as good. Gratitude knows no evil. Gratitude sees the situation, and chooses to trust its potential. Gratitude is not just savoring the sweetness of victory–it is relishing the lessons of defeat.
From a scientific perspective, there has been an increase in studies documenting the positive effects of gratitude on health. These finding have created quite a buzz and several books have been written on the science of happiness–including the works of Prof. Robert Emmons. Everything from sleep to heart and mental health to an increase in immune system and a decrease in pain has been altered in response to gratitude.
One 35-year study of male Harvard students found significantly less disease at midlife in the group of men with positive things to say about their past and parents than from their more pessimistic counterparts. Another study conducted at the Mayo Clinic found that those who scored high on optimism had a 50% lower risk of premature death than those who scored as being more pessimistic. Though modern science is continuing to rediscover the power of a positive outlook, an attitude of gratitude has long been used as a way of health and healing.
Buddha said, “All that we are is the result of what we have thought.” As modern findings in the field of neuroplasticity and cognitive therapy continuously confirm, the way people perceive their experiences influences their emotional, behavioral, and physiological responses. Over time these mental habits are reinforced in the body. Your very physiology is, to a great extent, the product of your inner workouts.
When looking to change the body, sometimes the most influential change can be a change of heart. Without this shift of mind and spirit, the body may not follow. You may dedicate great effort and intention to the shape of your body, only to find yourselves frustrated if you do not see your image on the cover of Sport’s Illustrated. A discontented mind requires more than pushups to transform its appearance. Regardless of the depth of one’s desires, fullness and satisfaction are your birthrights. Implementing a practice of gratitude can change your mind and change your body. Next time you workout consider adding the following gratitude practices to take your transformation to the next level:
1. Workout because you already like yourself, not so that you won’t hate yourself.
2. See perfection as existing already, with just a little clean up work remaining.
3. Have fun while you workout…if not now, when?!
4. Write a short term goal for your workout (e.g. number of reps, choice of exercises, etc.), then rip it up saying, “thank you” after the workout both symbolizing the futility of the goal and reaffirming the attitude above the accomplishment.
5. Celebrate the stubborn areas of your body that are most resistant to change as an opportunity to CHOOSE change of heart and continue to evolve.
References
Emmons, R. A., & McCullough, M. E. (2003). Counting blessings versus burdens: An experimental investigation of gratitude and subjective well-being in daily life. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 84(2), 377–389
Mellin LM. Wired for Joy: A Revolutionary Method for Creating Happinessfrom Within. Carlsbad, CA: Hay House;2010
Mayo Clin Proc. 2002 Aug;77(8):748–53.
Psychosom Med, 1997 Mar/Apr; 59(2):144–49.
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